1. Valerie 4 years ago

    The last week , i have said no. No to someone who pushed me time over time, this isn’t easy to do. Because that person stil has a role in my life. I know that he wil maybe try to push me again. But i am more aware, because my love for myself has grown. I respect him but I have to protect myself and my enviroment . My children and those I love. Thank you

  2. dminer11 4 years ago

    Last week at a women’ s business networking meeting. It is new we meet once a month and we’ve had 4 meetings. I had a notebook and took notes. A couple of things I noted were two dates of upcoming functions. My focus was to the speaker to the right of me. The member to the left of me was apparently reading my notes. In the middle of the president’s talk, the person to my left said to me that I had the dates wrong. I looked at them and said, “no I don’t think so”… she continued to push…so i read out loud what i had written. And she replies,”oh that is right.” I retorted, “so far I’ve always been able to read my own writing. ” She didn’t stop. I gave her “the Look”. She pursed her lips and raised her eyebrows. I turned away having made my point and setting a boundary.

  3. Heather Thomas 5 years ago

    I am thinking that maybe my boundaries are less rigid than i thought. The mustard on the sandwich being the a great example for me to learn from.

  4. Joy Little Mountain Richards 5 years ago

    Hanna, wow, that was brilliant idea, reinforced the script! I did video on camera.
    I can replay that, so it becomes second nature!

    This was another profound exercise!
    Felt good to witness myself staying calm, instead of upset.
    Felt good inside too, instead of the usual emotions of dread and fear cropping up.
    ( then usually slipping into tears or anger through sheer frustration of being bullied or simply not heard, my needs not considered, just disregarded ).
    Felt good I stated my needs and what wasn’t acceptable behaviour, that I didn’t feel comfortable so left until they calmed down, and only when I felt it was calm, the conversation could resume…
    So that’s the script roughly and video done, I’m prepared now!

    My code word going to be WARRIOR
    When they see me slipping backwards, I want them to say Warrior, get me back on track and make me chuckle again, love the idea of a code word! Uplifts my spirits, Will help me snap out of my feeling of a failure and stop me getting depressed, really don’t want to go down that dark path again.

    I’m starting to feel better, more tools in the box of empowerment, don’t feel so vulnerable now.

    Once again, deepest gratitude Dakota.

  5. Patti 5 years ago

    Thanks for sharing, I am realizing how easy it is to fall into shame and depression when I don’t stick to my boundaries

  6. Marisse Reyes 5 years ago

    When I don’t assert myself and my boundaries, I feel an unsettling, queasy feeling in my solar plexus. I get clammy and tense too. Good things to take note of.

    I also find it interesting that on the surface the women in my family seemed really good with their boundaries. These women were divas when it came to service in restaurants and hotels. They were super demanding. But in their personal lives their boundaries were absolutely non-existent. So I find it interesting that some people try to compensate in ego-centric ways when it comes to asserting yourself.

  7. Jackie 5 years ago

    I will definitely start small! This is a whole new ball game. So, practicing my wants and needs will start with: 1. When i go buy a coffee, I want them to pour a small into my Contigo cup…but often, they will pour a medium (the size of this cup). I want a small so it can cool a little faster, so that I can drink it sooner. When they have given me a medium, I just say…well thank You , but I only paid for a small…they say it’s ok…but now, I will ask them to pour some out! I am the queen of Not rocking the boat…so I will start to assert my needs!

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